Something to think about....
Ok so it's my second blog in a day... I just thought I'd jot down my interesting conversation with CT. CT is my 'fresh-out-of-college' coworker and taking into consideration the 6year gap, next to her I feel ancient. As I like to say, I live vicariously through CT. Us settled, married folks would just have to settle for her weekend recap every so often.
Anyways...she came up to me today to do our usual 2 minute chat and she asked me..."when did you know you were ready to settle down?" Nuts! I wasn't anticipating a deep conversation but I came up with the honest-to-goodness answer I could come up with: "It was when the right man walked in to my life at the right time." Does that sound cheesy or what? Stop snickering, Big Guy!
I was 26 when I got married.
I was 24 when the Big Guy and I met and started going out.
In less than a year of going out, we got engaged.
A year of engagement resulted in The Walk down the aisle.
1 month later, we were expecting the little monster.
So many things happened in the 2+ year span. Good things. Nothing but good things.
But then C wanted to know how, at 26, did I know I was ready to settle down. Honestly, I wasn't. When the Big Guy and I started dating, there was no pressure for "forever" nor was there any intentions. It was just going to be one big awesome ride. But we were lucky that we were both at the point in our lives where we thought "it's time I find the one I would want to wake up with forever." I think if I met the Big Guy earlier on, it might have not worked out this way. I was in a long (no - more like loooooooooooong) term relationship by the time I was 16, my first relationship ironically. Too young to be in a serious committed relationship? Not at that time. It was definitely a learning experience. The Sandwich Man (that's how the Big Guy refers to the ex) was (as I'm sure he still is) a great person but (un)fortunately, we grew in separate directions. Different interests. Feelings changed. Priorities revised. In the end, we both allowed the relationship to fall apart. Again, a definite learning experience. It was an ugly ending to a great beginning. Again, a definite learning experience. But really, if I didn't have that under my belt, would I have been ready to settle down with the Big Guy? I doubt it. I needed to learn how it is to love in order to be loved. I needed to learn to let go before I can "stake my claim." I needed to get hurt in order to feel good again. And I needed to lose something important in order to realize that what I have is all I need. After the Sandwich Man, I dated (quite a bit) but never really settled to one serious relationship. And after all of that, I told myself that the next guy I'll be with is the guy I'll marry. And this is where my Big Guy comes in :).
So I told CT...it may be worth to go through the ugly stuff so you can appreciate what you have in the end. She sighed and said "ugh! So complicated." So I just have to pat her on the back and say "welcome to the Big People's world!"
Stop snickering, Big Guy!
Anyways...she came up to me today to do our usual 2 minute chat and she asked me..."when did you know you were ready to settle down?" Nuts! I wasn't anticipating a deep conversation but I came up with the honest-to-goodness answer I could come up with: "It was when the right man walked in to my life at the right time." Does that sound cheesy or what? Stop snickering, Big Guy!
I was 26 when I got married.
I was 24 when the Big Guy and I met and started going out.
In less than a year of going out, we got engaged.
A year of engagement resulted in The Walk down the aisle.
1 month later, we were expecting the little monster.
So many things happened in the 2+ year span. Good things. Nothing but good things.
But then C wanted to know how, at 26, did I know I was ready to settle down. Honestly, I wasn't. When the Big Guy and I started dating, there was no pressure for "forever" nor was there any intentions. It was just going to be one big awesome ride. But we were lucky that we were both at the point in our lives where we thought "it's time I find the one I would want to wake up with forever." I think if I met the Big Guy earlier on, it might have not worked out this way. I was in a long (no - more like loooooooooooong) term relationship by the time I was 16, my first relationship ironically. Too young to be in a serious committed relationship? Not at that time. It was definitely a learning experience. The Sandwich Man (that's how the Big Guy refers to the ex) was (as I'm sure he still is) a great person but (un)fortunately, we grew in separate directions. Different interests. Feelings changed. Priorities revised. In the end, we both allowed the relationship to fall apart. Again, a definite learning experience. It was an ugly ending to a great beginning. Again, a definite learning experience. But really, if I didn't have that under my belt, would I have been ready to settle down with the Big Guy? I doubt it. I needed to learn how it is to love in order to be loved. I needed to learn to let go before I can "stake my claim." I needed to get hurt in order to feel good again. And I needed to lose something important in order to realize that what I have is all I need. After the Sandwich Man, I dated (quite a bit) but never really settled to one serious relationship. And after all of that, I told myself that the next guy I'll be with is the guy I'll marry. And this is where my Big Guy comes in :).
So I told CT...it may be worth to go through the ugly stuff so you can appreciate what you have in the end. She sighed and said "ugh! So complicated." So I just have to pat her on the back and say "welcome to the Big People's world!"
Stop snickering, Big Guy!
