We are truly blessed
For the longest time, the Big Guy and I have been discussing about putting together a living will, brought by precautionary concerns that if in case something happens to us, we will be assured that Jake will be taken cared for. From talking to other moms and researching online to discussing with my own mom, everyone suggested that it is best practice to have something as precautionary. We sat down and thought of possible people that we can ask to be potential guardians for Jake. Obviously, our siblings come to mind (my brother R, sister C and The Big Guy's sister L). We both feel that any one of them will be well-suited as Jake's guardians since we know that they love Jake as their own. And so the question of 'back-up' guardians came up. Who do we approach to ask as possible guardians for Jake. For all the reasons we had to narrow down possible guardians, only one couple came to mind: our dear friends J&C. J is Jake's godfather, thus making C the honorary Tita Ninang. We love this couple to death. They are so much like us in so many ways. Their values, their faith, their outlook on life and respect for family - virtues that we share and I believe, the glues that bind us together as friends. They made sense. And they love Jake. Jake adores them. And so it was settled - we were going to ask J&C if they will give us the honor.
Last night, they came for our monthly dinners together. The Big Guy already pre-warned them that there was something we needed to ask them and so J&C have been pondering for days as to what it could possibly be. The minute they walked in, J asked if we won the lotto. He caught my attention and thought "I will win the lotto." See - J has this innate 'gift' of knowing things before they actually happen. For example, before we found out that we were pregnant, he emailed me one day and asked me if I was. I said no. Days later, I found out I was. It turned out that he dreamt about me being pregnant. Next thing I knew, he asked if my friend E was pregnant. I said no. He said probably around September she will be. We brushed it aside (this was in July when he asked). Come September, E&S announced that they were pregnant. He has this knack...don't ask me why because frankly it's quite freaky :) but kinda cool. He can read palms as well. Anyways - so when he asked if we won the lotto...I got excited because I thought he dreamed that we did. It was always said that if one of us wins the lotto, the other will reap the benefits as well. We said that if one of us wins, the other one is set for life :).
Needless to say - our news to them was not because we won the lotto. The Big Guy was having difficulty relaying the message and I didn't want to speak at first with fears of getting emotional and end up crying (which I did!). So I just flat out gave them the 'history' of what we're thinking and that as our favorite friends, we would hope that they would consider being Jake's guardians in any case that something happens that our siblings can't provide for Jake. They accepted. I was relieved. We finished our coffees then. They stayed until midnight. Jake loved the attention they gave him last night. They left and Jake fell asleep happy.
This morning, I came to work with an email from J with the sweetest and most reassuring words for us... ...about last night, sorry if we didn't seem/look excited or too enthusiastic about your question. We're extremely flattered! The thing is, I guess, it's also because C and I have already talked about it (don't know how or why but somehow I already told her it's about that...so we were able to discuss it beforehand) -- that's what you get for taking too long to ask/tell us! When you two asked me to be a Ninong and I said yes...to me that's already taking on that responsibility. We're honored! It shouldn't even be an issue...you guys could've just emailed us...you're funny! Even if we're 2nd backup or even the primary guardians, we'd love to do it. We love you guys...and you already know how much we love Jake... I couldn't help but get emotional after reading his email. As a parent, that is the most reassuring thing I have ever felt. To know that no matter what happens, the one being that means the most to me and the Big Guy will never be alone.
I can never be thankful enough for every day that we are showered by His love and showing it to us through family and friends like J&C. When I approached my brother to possibly have him down as Executor of our estate being the eldest of all siblings, he willingly with no hesitation said no problem. I will never forget how lucky we are. And I can only hope that the Big Guy and I never fail to show these people that we are so blessed to have them in our lives.
Have a good weekend people! Take care of each other.
People come into your life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. When you know which one it is for a person, you will know what to do for that person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered, and now it is time to move on.Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
